How to Build a Real Gay Life You Love

A real gay life

What do you think about when you reflect on your life, relationships, and finances? From Liza Minnelli’s wisdom to quantum physics and back again. Let’s talk about creating the real gay life you love.

Rising above the realities of gay life

Picture it: You’re stuck in a reality you don’t love. Liza Minnelli once said, “Reality is something you rise above.” That nugget of diva wisdom inspired us to explore how queer people have historically transformed their realities.

Progress came from the Stonewall riots to marriage equality because bold individuals said, “Not today, oppression.”

Similarly, we can rise above financial and relational hurdles—just like Dale, who joined us on Queer Money to tackle $16,000 of credit card debt that was dragging his relationship down faster than Glitter nearly sunk Mariah Carey’s career.

What’s reality anyway? A gay quantum deep dive

Before you eye-roll, stick with us.

Quantum physics offers some surprising parallels to the queer experience. Like light particles that behave differently when observed (thanks, Thomas Young), our realities shift depending on how we view and act on them.

Feeling skeptical? Ask yourself: Do you see life as a drag (pun intended), or do you view it as an opportunity to create fabulousness? As Anaïs Nin said, “We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are.”

The gay vibe: Thoughts, actions & attracting a life you love

Einstein famously said, “Everything is vibration,” he was onto something.

If you think, “No one will ever love me,” or “I’ll always be broke,” you’re emitting Debbie Downer energy that pushes away love and success faster than bad karaoke clears a gay bar.

To flip the script, start with intentional, positive thoughts. Think, “I am lovable, I deserve financial freedom,” or “Yes, I will buy that Hermes someday.” Then, back those vibes up with actions that align with your goals.

5 building blocks of a happy gay life

After years of helping LGBTQ+ individuals transform their lives, we’ve identified five essentials for creating your real gay life:

Loving Relationships: Build connections that make your heart sing.
Financial Stability: Ditch the debt and build wealth for your dream life.
Health and Fitness: Focus on feeling good in your skin—no six-pack required.
Lifestyle Joy: Whether it’s brunch, biking, or binge-watching, find what brings you joy.
Purpose and Direction: Align your goals with your values to create a life you love.

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A real gay life takeaway

We leave you with this: Your thoughts shape your reality. If you’re not happy with your life, start with your mindset.

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Your real gay life starts now—let’s make it fabulous!

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We’re David & John Auten-Schneider, the Debt Free Guys®, and the hosts of the Queer Money® podcast hosts and of ‘Living (Not So) Fabulously’ by Yahoo Finance. We help queer people (and allies) live fabulously, not fabulously broke, by helping them 1) achieve debt freedom, 2) become part- or full-time entrepreneurs and 3) save and invest for an ideal retirement.