11 secrets you didn’t know about gay power couples
We want to be with or like Neil & David, George & Brad, Jonathan & Simon. But how did they become the gay power couples they are? Here are 11 steps.
1. Power couples limit their limitations
Most people acquire an unhealthy dose of limiting beliefs as they grow up. Queer people do so disproportionately more. However, these queer heroes know they do themselves a disservice if they’re their own worst enemy.
So, they overcome their limiting beliefs and receive all the success they can imagine. Like Dorothy and her quest to go home, they know they have the power within them.
2. They take risks and fail forward
Influential people take risks. They aren’t afraid to fail. They don’t like to fail, but they’re not scared to fail because they know that they’re learning when they’re not winning. They know that comfort stifles progress; no progress or slow progress means no success.
Many start their businesses or work to become titans of industry. They know that the more power they have the more power they give our queer community. They step out of the closet and then step up to leadership.
To be good business partners, whether they work together or not, they know what each other wants. Do you know what your partner wants?
3. They never stop learning
To keep up with other like-mind homos, they constantly learn, read, listen and watch informational, educational and inspirational books, podcasts, videos, webinars, blogs, etc.
They soak up information like a sponge to change themselves and the world.
This insatiable learning also includes learning about the “scary” topic of money, making it not-so-scary.
4. Gay power couples support each other like jockstraps
Successful people have clear, achievable goals. Successful gay couples support each other’s ambitions. They may not have the same goals but support each other’s goals. They act as each other’s accountability partners; they’re a mini-mastermind.
They understand that the other’s success is their success. When one wins, they both win. When one loses, they both learn.
A way for each of you to be clear on each other’s dreams is for each of you to create vision boards. Collect and post pictures of the lives you want to live, the goals you want to achieve, and the leader you want to be.
5. Gay power couples communicate
Above all else, these gay power couples recognized that their strength comes from being a strong couple. The best way to stay strong is to communicate.
They. Talk. About. Everything.
Whether it’s money, sex, love, business, or family, they talk to get on the same page. They’re a team and they communicate like one.
6. Power couples spend less money than they make
These successful duos on our green and blue sphere know where each dollar comes from and where each dollar goes. They never ask, “Where the f*ck did all my money go?” They know how, when, and where they spend their money. They understand that the physics of money says they cannot spend more than they make and be financially secure.
They have budgets and use tools to stick to their budget like Kerri Strug sticks landings. They understand what Soren Kierkegaard meant when he said, “Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom,” and that a budget is not restrictive but liberating.
7. Gay bosses give back to our gay gaggle
Power couples understand that “to whom much is given much is expected.” They know the causes and initiatives that are important to them, and they donate their time and money accordingly.
Like Oprah said, “And [giving is] not just about writing a check. It’s being able to touch somebody’s life.” The better they do, the better they can give back.
8. The power couple is often the hot couple
Whether they’re bears, twinks, otters or jocks, they take care of themselves. They know that they are their brand. Whether they work for themselves or someone else, they know their mugs help them win or lose. So, they care for their bodies and looks without sacrificing secret number five.
These gay inspirations get their (plump) behinds into the gym and move their burly booties every day.
They don’t obsess about body image. They don’t manufacture false ideals. They know their health leads to success, and their brand needs a healthy image.
Likewise, they know that clothes that fit them well are better than clothes that cost a lot. They don’t need a lot of clothing, but their clothing is suitable and makes them look good. No one tires of looking at a man in a well-fitted suit, whether on the beach or in the office, no matter how often he wears it.
9. They spend their time with like-minded people
Successful people know what Jim Rohn knew: “You’re the average of the five people with whom you spend most of your time.”
They don’t isolate themselves from everyone else. As Bob Proctor says, they spend time with all their other friends, just not as long and as frequently. Instead, they seek out people who push them to be better. They find their people, others who think more significantly, want more, and give back plenty.
10. Play is work and work is play
They know that time is money and money is time. Like all of us, they like their gaycations and blend playtime and work time. Whether it’s dinner or travel or adventuring, they connect with their network and their network’s network to build business relationships and friendships.
They understand that they can have their cake and eat it, too, with synergies, mutually beneficial relationships, and A Whole New Mind level of thinking.
11. They recharge right
These Not-Too-Ambiguously-Gay-Duos aren’t superhuman, though they’re super successful. They know when and how to recharge without wrecking secret number five. They know maximizing secret number eleven doesn’t mean sacrificing secret number seven.
Taking a break doesn’t mean breaking the bank. Unwinding physically and mentally doesn’t mean overdoing it with sex, drugs, or alcohol. They know that overdoing these vices means undoing their goals and objectives. They also know there’s a healthy balance and don’t deny themselves occasional desires.
Stop hoping and start acting! Figure out your goals and the objectives needed to reach them.