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The Biggest Hurdle to Your Success

Success is an inside job

Blaming external factors for our failures may seem convenient, but it ultimately disempowers us. True success is an inside job, requiring us to take ownership of our actions and decisions. Here’s a guide to unlock your inner potential and pave your path to success.

Wining about success

No typos here! In this electrifying episode of Queer Money®, we’ve shaken things up, uncorked the wine, and delved into one of our most cherished topics: success. From devouring motivational videos to immersing ourselves in podcasts on the law of attraction, we find boundless inspiration in exploring the pathways to personal growth and achievement.

At Queer Money®, our mission is clear: to empower the LGBTQ+ community to unlock their full potential and embrace a life of abundance. In this episode, we extend a hand to our queer tribe, sharing insights gleaned from our journeys and offering guidance on how to navigate the winding road to success. Because when one of us rises, we all rise.

Hear our successes and failures with success:

How limiting beliefs prevent success

Have your beliefs hindered your path to success?

Consider this: your thoughts lay the foundation for your emotions, which drive your actions, ultimately shaping your outcomes.

Renowned writer and activist Alexander Leon eloquently captures the struggle many of us face in reconciling our true selves with the societal constructs we’ve internalized. He articulates how queer individuals often navigate a delicate balance between authenticity and self-preservation, unraveling the layers of identity forged in response to prejudice and shame.

Picture the metaphor of the elephant: tethered as a calf by a mere rope to a chair, it grows into a mighty creature yet remains bound by the illusion of its limitations. Like the elephant, many gay men carry the weight of societal shackles imposed by family, religion, politics, media, and education. Ingrained in youth, these constraints shape perceptions of our capabilities and constrain our potential.

As Leon poignantly observes, breaking free from these invisible barriers constitutes the monumental task of adulthood. We oscillate between embracing our inherent greatness and succumbing to the allure of conformity.

So, I ask again: have your beliefs confined your journey to success? And more importantly, are you ready to challenge them, to unleash the full extent of your power, and transcend the limitations of societal conditioning?

Why success is yours and how it can be

In the words of the revered first-century Jewish scholar, Hillel the Elder, we’re compelled to ponder: “If not you, then who? If not now, when?” These timeless questions echo a resounding truth: the moment for action is always now, and the agent of change is ourselves.

In the pursuit of self-actualization, as delineated by Maslow’s hierarchy, and in our quest to realize our purpose while championing equality for ourselves and our community, the path forward demands that we embody our authentic selves with a delicate balance of confidence and humility.

So, how do we liberate ourselves from the constraints of limiting beliefs? How do we dismantle the fences and ropes tether us to a diminished version of ourselves?

Firstly, we must identify these insidious beliefs, acknowledging their presence and impact on our lives. Next, we confront them with the truth—discerning the disparity between falsehoods and reality. Armed with this clarity, we craft affirmations rooted in the truth, affirmations that serve as beacons of light guiding us toward liberation.

Yet, the journey toward emancipation from limiting beliefs has its challenges. We must remain vigilant, catching ourselves when these beliefs resurface, steadfastly countering them with the unwavering truth. Journaling is a powerful tool in this process, offering insights into recurring patterns and facilitating our understanding of their origins.

Remember, this journey is not a sprint but a marathon. It requires patience, grace, and an unwavering commitment to self-discovery and growth. As we navigate this terrain, let us heed the wisdom of the ages: all progress, no matter how incremental, is a triumph.

Even the great luminaries of history, from the Buddha to the Stoic philosophers, were not immune to the pursuit of excellence. Epictetus, the Stoic sage who rose from slavery to philosophy, reminds us that our pursuits endure not because we expect perfection but because we are steadfast in our commitment to growth and self-improvement.

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We’re David and John Auten-Schneider, the founders of Debt Free Guys and creators of the Queer Money® podcast. We help queer people (and allies) achieve financial, relationship, time, and location freedom by helping them design their Wealth Builder’s Pyramid.

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